Whether it’s called couples therapy, couples counseling,
marriage therapy, marriage counseling or relationship therapy, what we are
talking about is usually a therapeutic relationship with a professional that
involves both parties of a couple rather than just one person.
Not all professional counselors or psychologists are skilled in marital
or relationship counseling and if you are searching for someone or some program
to work with, you will be wise to find out what portion of their practice is
with couples and what specific training or education he or she has had in
working with couples. Dr Brainerd
is one of the very small group of clinical psychologists who has specialized in
There are several reasons why seeing a therapist together
as a couple rather than each person seeing either different therapists or the
same therapist. First, there is a
very special and unusual complementary dynamic in intimate, committed
relationships that emerges most clearly when the couple is seen together and it
is very important that couples learn to deeply understand the unconscious
processes that got them together and the underlying dynamics that make
relationships so painful and confusing at times.
We Really Choose Our Mates and Three
Brains and a Partner)
Secondly, no relationship will work well without effective
communication skills and other relationship skills. These are best taught, understood and practiced with each
other rather than trying to learn these alone.
For more information, see Communication
is the Key or take the tour of the Couple’s
If you are interested in counseling or therapy with Dr.
Brainerd see “How to
Other options to consider are taking a workshop
or a Seminar for couples or joining
the Couple’s Workstation, our online membership area for couples. The first month is free.
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